Author Archive for Warren Pfohl

Sit With Me in the Dark

Have you ever wondered what to say or what to do when someone you love or know has a child with a special need or is fighting for their lives with a life-threatening disease?   You fear to say the wrong thing so you say nothing at all.

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The Power of Siblings

Wendell, Warren, Wayne, and Walter!  Sons of Albert and Ruby Pfohl.  Four brothers, each unique in personality, experiences, gifting and calling.  One always says he is the better looking!  You be the judge.

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A Dream Come True

David’s Refuge is truly a dream come true. It is a dream we longed for and has now been achieved. It was a prayer and a wish we didn’t know if it would ever get off the ground yet this year we will serve 350 families.

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Pea Brain Theology

Someday I am going to write a book.  I’m not sure if anyone will buy it or read it but I am still going to write it.  It’s going to be called Pea Brain Theology by The Highly Esteemed Most Reverend Warren Pfohl.  Ok, let’s get rid of the Highly Esteemed Most Reverend part and just say by Warren Pfohl, a self-proclaimed Pea Brain. 

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Renewed! Refreshed! Restored!

Would you do something for me?  Two days ago Dan and BrandiLee Schafran, along with their two boys and Dan’s mom landed at Fort Myers airport for a few days of refreshment, renewal, and restoration.  Brenda and I have the privilege and honor to host them for a few days.  I don’t know why but I feel like I did hosting our first couple at David’s Refuge seven years ago.

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The “F” Word

Young man, look at me in the eyes!”
These words often haunt me.  David was only eight years old.  I don’t remember what he had done wrong, but I wanted him to look at me so I could talk to him, teach him, and discipline him.  But no matter how many times I asked him to look at me in my eyes, he continued to look at my forehead.  Sadly, I spanked him

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Please Share Your Story

Everyone of us has a story that should be shared.  I love telling our story.  Sometimes I come to the end of our story and I feel as if I have been gutted and beaten, but more often I feel elated and privileged to be one of the protagonist in a story I would have never written or signed up for.  I love telling our story.

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The Stocking

Putting away our Christmas decorations I found this. David’s stocking. (We named him David after the shepherd boy David who was a man after God’s heart.)

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Facetime Live With Warren and Brenda

Just a quick blog to invite you to join Brenda and me tonight (11/7/18) at 8:30 PM EST for a Facebook Live event. November is National Caregiver Month and David’s Refuge will be hosting 4 Empowerment sessions to encourage, teach, and support you in you role as a mom, dad, and caregiver.

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Make A Memory

It almost feels like it was yesterday.  In my mind’s eye I can see my bride, Brenda, walking down the aisle, gorgeous, white dress, veil covering her face, her dad … Continued

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Hijacked Again

  “1988, that was the year I was born!”  Eight little words, a short sentence spoken with no malice and my heart and emotions were immediately hijacked.  Fighting back tears, … Continued

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OUR NEW NORM

We have a new normal.  Here is what it looks like. Sleeping in five different beds over the past 15 days Waking up each morning having to orient yourself to … Continued

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OOPS

Oops!  I accidentally sent out tomorrows blog before it was finished.  Please ignore it!  Stay tuned for tomorrows blog! Warren

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NEW NORMAL

We have a new normal.  Here is what it looks like. Sleeping in five different beds over the past 15 days Waking up each morning having to orient yourself to … Continued

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Defining PROUD

Today’s Blog is brought to you by Sarah Watson – David’s Refuge Event Manager   Definition: proud/ adjective 1. Feeling deep pleasure or satisfaction as a result of one’s own … Continued

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Sleep Deprivation

Yesterday my doctor looked me in the eyes and said, “You have to work on your hygiene!”  No, I’m not my talking about my personal hygiene.  My appointment was with … Continued

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Do Something.

I spent this past weekend searching for a missing boy with autism. I was notified early Saturday morning that volunteers were being requested to help search for a 14-year-old child … Continued

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My New Habit

  I’m working on developing a new habit.  It’s going to take time and effort, but I am confident that I will succeed.  You see,, for the past five or … Continued

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Pray For The Schafrans

“Hey Warren…wanted to text you…Just talked to doctors…test indicate positive for rhabdomyosarcoma…Finn’s cancer is back.” Come on God!  We prayed for the Schafrans.  Finn was in recovery.  He was getting … Continued

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Defining a mother…

Today’s post is brought to you by Sarah Watson – David’s Refuge Events Manager Mom. What does that word mean to you? To me “mom” is pretty much everything. A … Continued

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Merry Christmas!

  As you are reading this post we will be gathered with our family to celebrate Christmas in New York.  I can’t wait!  We will all be together on Christmas … Continued

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I am Thankful!

“How can you say you are grateful for your son’s death?”  This father’s anger and grief over his son’s diagnosis was raw.  All he could see and feel as we … Continued

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The Crazy Cycle

Do you remember the first “stupid” argument you got into with your spouse?  I do!  It was about whether chili is considered a soup or not.  We had only been … Continued

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Asa Rowan Pfohl

I would like to introduce you to my new grandson, Asa Rowan Pfohl!  Asa and his mommy and daddy will be home in about an hour.  His brothers, Ezra and … Continued

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#AdamsActs

Today I want to introduce you to a fellow blogger, a mom of a child with special needs, a David’s Refuge guest and host, and friend, Lara Capuano.   I love … Continued

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Standing For You

To stand or to kneel, a question that seems to be dividing our country.  Turn on your TV, open your Facebook News  Feed, or listen to the radio for just … Continued

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Please Pray for Us!

I just got off the phone with our pastor in Bonita Springs, Florida.  He is kayaking around his neighborhood, his phone is about to die, there is no electricity, all … Continued

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Just One Taste

Can you remember a time when someone said to you, “Just one taste!  I promise you’ll like it.”  Slowly they dip a fork into their concoction, twirling the bite size … Continued

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We Have Needs Too

Rocky Balboa got it!  He didn’t try to hide it; he didn’t pretend; he simply admitted he had “gaps.”  In fact, when asked by his brother-in-law Paulie Pennino why he … Continued

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Warndell

Without a doubt he is my best friend.  We shared a common womb, we were born on the same day, we both came to faith in a God who loved … Continued

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Now What?

Do you realize you were created to make a difference?  You are a force to be reckoned with.  Out of the 7.5 billion people who call planet earth their home, … Continued

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Dear David…

For the next four weeks I am going to share some letters that I wrote to David near the end of his life.  One of the greatest struggles I faced … Continued

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Transitions

Today I am believing in the phrase, “Shorter is Better!” Tomorrow we are returning to Florida so we can pack up and fly to Costa Rica with our church on a … Continued

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Grandsons!

My son and his family arrived yesterday for a week of vacation with Nonni and Poppi.  For the next seven days we will play with our grandsons at the beach, cook and … Continued

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Happy Easter!

(WARNING: Warren has his “Pastor” hat on today!) As many of you know I was a pastor for 15 years.  I taught, counseled, married, buried, baptized, prayed,  encouraged, and helped … Continued

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Why Me?

Like many of you I have a morning routine that helps me enter into the day. I get up, grind my coffee beans and make the coffee. While the coffee … Continued

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Exhaustion

ex·haus·tion [iɡˈzôsCH(ə)n] noun a state of extreme physical or mental fatigue. the action or state of using something up or of being used up completely drained of one’s physical or … Continued

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Will You Be Mine?

For the past thirty three years I have had only one Valentine, my beautiful, wonderful, talented, godly, funny, artistic, kind, and generous best friend, Brenda Bell Pfohl.  We have lived … Continued

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THE POWER OF GRATITUDE

How would you like to experience the following? Improved physical, emotional, and social well-being Greater optimism and happiness Improved feelings of connection in times of loss or crises Increased self-esteem … Continued

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Wednesday With Warren

Every Tuesday I sit down at my computer and ask myself the question, “What should I write about this week?”  Often I have been chewing or ruminating on a thought all … Continued

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Problem with last blog

For some reason the video message I posted did not appear in today’s blog.   I am going to try and post it again here.  Sorry for any confusion!

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Be Still!

I want to give you a gift.  I know you need it and want it.  In fact, your health and your ability to be a good parent, husband, wife, or best … Continued

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My Three Sons

Brenda and I bought our first real painting for our home in Door County, Wisconsin. It’s entitled “Mischief Afloat” by Pamela Murphy.  She is a local artist who collects old … Continued

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Finnsfans

Many of you have asked how Finn is doing.  If you are interested in following their journey and want updates please follow them on their new blog  at www.finnsfans.wordpress.com.  This … Continued

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Finn Needs Our Prayers

Cancer. Just typing the word makes me feel sick. Sadly our dear friends, Dan and BrandiLee Schafran’s little boy, Finn was just diagnosed with a rare malignant cancer called rhabdomyosarcosis. … Continued

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Because of you…

I’m sorry but I have to boast about something today.  David’s Refuge is where it is today “Because Of” the support, hard work, and dedication of our Board of Directors. … Continued

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Beautifully Imperfect

Today I found this beautiful video that celebrates the power and beauty of imperfection.  “Beautifully Imperfect” is a celebration of our idiosyncrasies, and how they can wind up making our … Continued

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